Planning a wedding can be an exciting as well as a frustrating event. There are so many decisions to make and details to attend to. Preparing for this event can take months and has a tendency to consume just about every aspect of your life until the big day. Unfortunately, during this time, couples forget to cover some topics that will affect you into your married life. Following are a few areas that you should discuss with your future spouse before walking down the aisle: Read the rest of this entry »
Buying an engagement ring can be fun, exciting, and unfortunately, stressful. Are you buying the right ring? Are you spending enough? And – most importantly – will your fiancée love it as much as she loves you? If you’re looking to buy an engagement ring, follow the 5 rules below to make the search as stress-free as possible and to ensure your sweetie will be over the moon happy with your choice. Read the rest of this entry »
If you’re going through a divorce it can be hard to find someone to talk to during this difficult period of your life. Many of your friends from during your marriage will be mutual friends who will find it hard to offer a neutral and sympathetic ear. To find a new set of confidantes that you can use to ease you through your divorce, try some of the following tactics. Read the rest of this entry »
All right, so dating isn’t exactly brain surgery. You go out, have a good time, and think you’re well on your way to a happy ending. Little do you know that you have probably already made these four dumb mistakes that could cost you the woman of your dreams! Read the rest of this entry »
There’s no sense in trying to tell a man that sex is overrated because we all know better. Sex is awesome! That said, every once in a while, you will experience a bad night in bed. Whether this bad night occurs because of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction or awkward positioning, we don’t know. In fact, we don’t want to know. Just take heed of these six sex tips that can’t miss. Read the rest of this entry »
Did it surprise you when you heard that Al and Tipper Gore separated? For many baby boomers and Generation Xers, news of this “perfect marriage” being threatened was a sobering wakeup call. Indeed, how does one begin to rationalize divorce and separation in 40-year marriages? How can a bond that once seemed so unbreakable suddenly come to an end? When we see someone we look up to (and not that many people around “look up” to Al Gore, but for the sake of illustration we’ll use the poor shlub) fail in their efforts, we start to think about our own life situation. You might even second-guess your own marriage or that of your parents. Read the rest of this entry »
Ahh, dating. Few things can be so wonderful and so terrifying as the idea of getting yourself out there and noticed by women. While it can be wonderful to be single and enjoy nights out with the guys, there are some nights where a little romance wouldn’t hurt. Unfortunately, it seems as though dating has become even more competitive than the workplace these days. Most guys feel like they have to take a super-serious approach to dating to avoid blowing their chances. This isn’t a great approach. In fact, that kind of mentality will blow your chances faster than anything else. Here are a few tips to ease the strain of making a good first impression.
Before You Go Out on a Date – Don’t Forget These Tips
There’s something about dating that can bring out the best, and the worst in all of us. You can take the most in control, high powered professional and send them out on a date only to see them completely fall apart. If you do all that you can to present a good image in your everyday life, you can’t afford to let yourself fall apart when it comes to going out and having some fun, and maybe a little romance. Remember these tips when you’re courting the ladies, to prevent a dating catastrophe.
Current statistics state 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce, the highest in the world. Divorce is at an all-time high, and the grief associated with divorce is akin to death.
Quite often, men suffer greater loss due to divorce than woman. Not only are there financial setbacks, men are dealt emotional blows as well. Woman often maintain the home, keep the children, and continue some semblance of normalcy. On the other hand, men are uprooted from homes, separated from children, and literally left alone.
Emotional pain that men feel from divorce is real, but men express grief in different ways. Some throw themselves into careers, alcohol, extreme sports, or bar hopping and woman. Others become depressed, withdrawn, and have difficulty at work; neither response is healthy nor necessary.
Men feel powerless and helpless when facing divorce; however, there are ways for men to feel in control and less helpless. Emotional loss will resolve itself with time, immediate financial needs and domestic comfort can be addressed immediately.
- Insure personal comfort. When leaving your home, take items necessary for housekeeping: sheets, towels, kitchen supplies, spare furniture, electronics, and any other personal affects. Inventory anything you remove from the house for later court dates.
- Acquire a safe deposit box. Gather important documents and put them in a safe deposit box. While you are not trying to hide anything from your wife, you need to protect your personal interests when possible.
- Cancel joint accounts. Continue to be fiscally responsible for your share of the expenses; however, you don’t need the additional burden of spending sprees, the embarrassment of overdrafts and credit cards being declined. Be fair and let your wife know, in advance, of changes.
- Do not cancel medical insurance. Until the court rules on your divorce and terms, you are still responsible for your wife and children.
- Inventory the house. Using a digital or video camera, record everything in the house. If anything goes missing, you have documentation.
- Maintain records of ALL communication between you and your wife. It may prove useful in court.
- Be responsible. A judge will have more respect if you continue to meet the needs of your children.
- See your children. Soon to be ex-wives can use children as weapons; they find ways to monopolize time and re-arrange schedules to their advantage. A separation agreement should be in place so there is no question about time spent with your kids.
- Get help. Prior to making any huge decisions, secure a good lawyer. He or she will advise you along the way and look out for your personal interests. Also, find someone you can talk to. Even men need someone they can verbalize the wide range of emotions associated with divorce.
Separation and divorce is never anyone’s first choice; however, it is a reality. Take steps to secure your personal comfort, your financial future, and surround yourself with supportive family and friends.