Finding New Confidantes During A Divorce
If you’re going through a divorce it can be hard to find someone to talk to during this difficult period of your life. Many of your friends from during your marriage will be mutual friends who will find it hard to offer a neutral and sympathetic ear. To find a new set of confidantes that you can use to ease you through your divorce, try some of the following tactics.
Join New Social Groups
One way to meet new people who may resonate well with your personality is explore new social groups. This isn’t as hard as it seems, thanks to the power of the Internet. Choose one or two of your favourite activities, then get online to check out local meet up groups or societies dedicated to your interests. You’ll have a shared interest to start, providing a soft opening for you to start building a new friendship.
Start By Sharing A Little
As you begin to form new friendships and build up a confidante type of relationship, it is important to start gradually. You don’t want to just dump your entire life story on a new acquaintance. Instead, start by sharing small confidences. Watch for reciprocal confiding to ensure that the other person is interested and willing to become a part of your inner circle. As you both share more with each other, it will be easier to share deeper secrets comfortably.
Be A Good Secret Keeper
It goes without saying that to find new confidantes you need to be a good confidante yourself. Prove that you can keep smaller secrets and confidences when you are doing the initial sharing to prove to others that you can be trusted. This helps build the kind of trust you need to be able to feel you can rely on a new friend as a go-to listener throughout the rest of your divorce.
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