One of my friends absolutely loves getting dressed up for dates. To her it’s fun and makes the experience of dating enjoyable. Basically she just loves the idea of doing the whole “dress up closet” thing (she also walks into clothing stores with the express purpose of playing dress up with ALL the clothes and then buying one or two items). However, for most of us, I daresay, getting ready for a date is not quite as fun. Read the rest of this entry »
Dressing for a first date can be pretty stressful. When searching through your wardrobe for the perfect outfit, you must consider how you want to present yourself and what each piece says about you (although your destination could also play a role in how you dress…you’re not going to wear an evening gown to go mountain-biking, for example). You want to make sure you come across as the confident, sexy woman that you are without looking too buttoned down, or alternately, too inviting. It can be extremely difficult to strike the right balance, but if you’re not sure what type of ensemble to don, you should at least attempt to avoid some of the worst fashion mistakes that women make on a first date. Read the rest of this entry »
So you met a new guy and things are starting to look promising. You seem to hit it off pretty well with him and he even went so far as to ask you out. Your date is coming up soon and you are excited with thoughts of all the possibilities that could happen. There’s nothing like those first few dates and getting to know someone new. Before you get too swept away, remember that it pays to keep your head on straight, even when it comes to potential romance. Here are 5 tips to think about in the early stages of dating someone new. Read the rest of this entry »
Do you have a big night on the town coming up with a special guy? Are you planning to have a fun, romantic, carefree evening away from the stress of everyday life? Dating should be fun and you shouldn’t have to spend your time worrying about how you look. If you want to have a good time on your date, a little pre-planning can help you and allow you to really enjoy your night out. Make sure that you’ve thought of everything in regards to your looks with this quick checklist. Read the rest of this entry »
A first date can set you on edge, but remembering these tips will help your date go more smoothly.
Don’t talk too much (or too little). Remember, you’re on this date to narrow down the candidates for the position of “the one.” In order to determine whether or not this person has a shot of filling this position, you will actually need to listen to what they are saying. To truly listen, you can’t talk the entire time. And, conversely, if the other person is asking you questions, try not to give one-word answers. Open up a little bit, because they’re also trying to gather relevant information about you.
Don’t wear false anything. This includes, but is not limited to, breasts, butts, eyelashes, coloured contact lenses and hair. You may be trying to make a good impression, but you want this person to like you for who you actually are. If you are on a date with a guy who keeps complimenting your beautiful (colour contact induced) green eyes, you will feel silly when, at some point, he sees that your eyes are actually brown. Of course, you want someone who likes you for your personality, and not based on the thickness of your hair or the colour of your eyes, but there is something to be said for truth in advertising.
Don’t get drunk. Remember the “don’t talk too much” rule? Getting drunk makes following that rule practically impossible. It also increases the likelihood that you will say or do something so embarrassing that you will never see your date again.
Don’t talk about your ex. Not only is this self-involved and boring for the other person, but it loads up this fresh, new relationship with all kinds of baggage. Right off the bat, you’ve told this guy that he’s going to have to do a lot of work to a) earn your trust or b) live up to the fable of “the one who got away.” Who wants to deal with that after only a Caesar salad?
Don’t talk about how many kids you want to have. If you’ve already have kids, that’s one thing, but if not, the first date is not the time to talk about them. Of course, at some point, you are going to need to talk about your hopes, dreams and goals for the future, but if you’re already talking about how many kids you’d like to have on the first date, you’re again, setting the other person up to meet an impossible goal. How does she know that she wants to be the mother of your kids? How does she know you like her for her, and not just for her child-bearing hips (a phrase that should NEVER be used on a first date, by the way)?
Basically, this list of “no’s” is to ensure that you are as much yourself on your first date as possible because you are the only you there is, and the person you’re on your date with is lucky to get you!