If you’ve been in a long term relationship, you know how difficult it can be to keep the romance alive. When you’ve settled in to a comfortable relationship with that special guy, sometimes the motivation to keep things steamy seems to take second place to everyday life. Just because your relationship isn’t brand new, doesn’t mean that you can’t recapture those romantic feelings and kindle the flames of romance; it just takes a little planning and work. Read the rest of this entry »
Online dating profiles are sometimes the only first impression you will get with your potential Mr. Right. This means that you need to put your best virtual foot forward. You can’t have any errors that will make your next date click away. Here are the steps you should go through to properly proofread your online dating profile and sure that it is attractively error free! Read the rest of this entry »
Ahh, dating. Few things can be so wonderful and so terrifying as the idea of getting yourself out there and noticed by women. While it can be wonderful to be single and enjoy nights out with the guys, there are some nights where a little romance wouldn’t hurt. Unfortunately, it seems as though dating has become even more competitive than the workplace these days. Most guys feel like they have to take a super-serious approach to dating to avoid blowing their chances. This isn’t a great approach. In fact, that kind of mentality will blow your chances faster than anything else. Here are a few tips to ease the strain of making a good first impression.
A first date can set you on edge, but remembering these tips will help your date go more smoothly.
Don’t talk too much (or too little). Remember, you’re on this date to narrow down the candidates for the position of “the one.” In order to determine whether or not this person has a shot of filling this position, you will actually need to listen to what they are saying. To truly listen, you can’t talk the entire time. And, conversely, if the other person is asking you questions, try not to give one-word answers. Open up a little bit, because they’re also trying to gather relevant information about you.
Don’t wear false anything. This includes, but is not limited to, breasts, butts, eyelashes, coloured contact lenses and hair. You may be trying to make a good impression, but you want this person to like you for who you actually are. If you are on a date with a guy who keeps complimenting your beautiful (colour contact induced) green eyes, you will feel silly when, at some point, he sees that your eyes are actually brown. Of course, you want someone who likes you for your personality, and not based on the thickness of your hair or the colour of your eyes, but there is something to be said for truth in advertising.
Don’t get drunk. Remember the “don’t talk too much” rule? Getting drunk makes following that rule practically impossible. It also increases the likelihood that you will say or do something so embarrassing that you will never see your date again.
Don’t talk about your ex. Not only is this self-involved and boring for the other person, but it loads up this fresh, new relationship with all kinds of baggage. Right off the bat, you’ve told this guy that he’s going to have to do a lot of work to a) earn your trust or b) live up to the fable of “the one who got away.” Who wants to deal with that after only a Caesar salad?
Don’t talk about how many kids you want to have. If you’ve already have kids, that’s one thing, but if not, the first date is not the time to talk about them. Of course, at some point, you are going to need to talk about your hopes, dreams and goals for the future, but if you’re already talking about how many kids you’d like to have on the first date, you’re again, setting the other person up to meet an impossible goal. How does she know that she wants to be the mother of your kids? How does she know you like her for her, and not just for her child-bearing hips (a phrase that should NEVER be used on a first date, by the way)?
Basically, this list of “no’s” is to ensure that you are as much yourself on your first date as possible because you are the only you there is, and the person you’re on your date with is lucky to get you!
Are you considering moving in with your significant other? It’s an exciting proposition, but here are some things you may want to consider first.
Money. Is your boyfriend/girlfriend financially stable enough to depend upon? You may not be joining bank accounts yet, but any debts or money issues your partner has will definitely affect you. And if you’re signing a lease together, you’ll need to know that you won’t be left holding the bag, paying all of the rent.
Lifestyle. Your girlfriend’s propensity to leave her socks on her kitchen table might be cute when it’s her kitchen table, but when it’s yours, you might find it a little more irksome. Is he a night owl while you’re an early-bird? These things may not have the power to make or break your relationship, but they can definitely put a strain on it and should be considered before you make the move.
Problems in your relationship. Any difficulties you have in your relationship will not be helped by moving in together. Living in close proximity to someone 24 hours a day will only intensify any issues that are already there. Be sure you are aware of what those are, talk through them and try to come up with solutions before you move in together.
Dealing with disapproval. Although living together without being married is more common than it used to be, there are still plenty of people out there who will meet your decision with disapproval. You can remain quiet when they say something disapproving, or reply with something like, “I appreciate your opinion, but this is the decision that is best for us.” Ultimately, it is your life and your decision to make.
Division of labour. Sometimes the division of labour in a new living arrangement happens organically, but other times, you may need to sit down and have a discussion about who will be in charge of doing what. You may be irritated that your boyfriend hasn’t taken out the trash in three days, but he may have honestly thought that you were going to do it. As in all things, communication is key.
Merging households can be fun, challenging, and has the possibility of strengthening your relationship like nothing else has. As long as you meet the opportunity with your eyes wide open, you’re willing to communicate honestly and openly, and secure enough with yourself to meet any opposition head-on, you will have a great time.