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Emotional Intelligence with Sarah Joseph

On this week’s Let’s Talk About… episode, Elise sits down with the Emotional Intelligence Coach, Sarah Joseph.

Sarah is a certified emotional intelligence coach whose mission is to help you get comfortable with your emotions and master them to achieve healthier relationships with others, and more importantly, yourself. She understands how our lack of emotional management can impact the longevity of our relationships and inspires our emotional healing by transforming our connection to the mind and body.

Elise and Sarah talk about what is emotional intelligence, listening to your body and mind, inner child healing and understanding yourself through journaling.

“Our emotions are our greatest teachers, and they’re here to teach us about the world around us by sending signals to us and communicating through us, through our body, and through our mind.” Sarah tells Elise on Let’s Talk About.

Check out the show’s transcript below.

Elise: Hi everyone, and welcome. This week we’re talking about emotional intelligence with Sarah. Sarah is a certified emotional intelligence coach whose mission is to help you get comfortable with your emotions and master them to achieve healthier relationships with others, and more importantly, yourself.

She understands how our lack of emotional management can impact the longevity of our relationships and inspires our emotional healing by transforming our connection to the mind and body. Sarah, thank you so much for being here with us today. 

[00:00:28] Sarah: Thank you for having me. I am so excited to be here. Spread the message of emotional intelligence because it’s something that’s honestly changed my life and I’m so excited to share that with the rest of the world.

[00:00:41] Elise: Well, I love the enthusiasm. Yeah. And honestly, I think emotional intelligence feels like it’s something in the last few years I’ve thought of more than I ever have before. I don’t know if it’s just, and we’ll get into this, I don’t know if it’s a bit of a newer field or what that is, but I think it’s definitely a relevant topic for, for the time that we’re in and so excited that we get to dive into it. Cuz I will also say like, I’ve heard of emotional intelligence. I’ve read some Instagram posts here and there are, your Instagram itself is a great resource, which we’ll get into. I kind of wanna, and maybe we start at the beginning and just like, what is emotional intelligence?

Like what is the definition of emotional intelligence? 

[00:01:21] Sarah: Mm-hmm. . So I’ll start about what I thought it was and going to what I, what it is really. So originally, you know, I thought I was, emotionally intelligent of course all the time, right? You just assume that your emotional capacity. Right? And uh, I later realized because like I was a good communicator, right?

I was like, oh, of course I know how to express how I feel. I know what it feels like, right. Until, a couple years ago when I realized that I was so disconnected from my feelings, how on earth could I communicate that? Right? How on earth could I really get that across if I wasn’t even in tune with my thoughts?

And then also my feelings, like what my body was doing. Uh, so essentially I used to think that emotional intelligence or being emotionally intelligent was something that you did when you were angry and when you were angry, you had an emotional outburst, right? Um, the people that you. Or when you were sad, you were ashamed of your tears.

Right? Or maybe when you were feeling overwhelmed and you know, society teaches us this, that when we’re feeling frustrated and overwhelmed, you go to a bar and you have a drink and you avoid and disconnect yourself from all of those feelings. Right? And I didn’t realize how disconnected I was until I finally said, Hey, this is not working for me.

Right? What I think as a coping mechanism that is for emotional intelligence, Actually not true at all. Right? And that is when I started realizing that emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, regulate, and manage your own emotions as well as understand the emotions of other people and how we can bring that into, you know, relieving our stress levels into communicating more effectively into problem solving.

10 times better than we would have if we didn’t know how to manage and regulate our emotions. 

[00:03:13] Elise: Okay. I love, I’m just writing some notes as you say that because I feel like, I feel like I’m gonna learn a lot today too, . But I also, I’m trying to think of what I thought emotional intelligence was. I guess I thought that it was like being in tune with my feelings.

I don’t think I realized that it was, also self-regulating those feelings and also how to interpret someone else’s feelings and communicate within that, especially like, you know, whether they’re love based relationship like boyfriend, girlfriend, girlfriend, girlfriend relationships or right, parent child relationships.

Like I don’t think I brought it to like that level. I think I was always just like, yeah, I’m in tune with my emotions. I let myself cry when I need to cry. Right. So I’m really, I’m even like more excited to get into like, ok, how do we, how do we like combat stress and problem solving and all those, those things you just kinda mentioned.

[00:04:09] Sarah: Exactly, exactly. 

[00:04:10] Elise: Yeah. So how did you get into this, so you mentioned like you were kind of out of tune, you also mentioned some of the things that get us out. So to go back to a step back maybe like are we born emotionally intelligent beings? Like are children more in tune with their emotion? 

[00:04:28] Sarah: I would say children are 100% more in tune with their emotions.

I would say it’s more the regulation aspect of it. Learning how to pass through those emotions through the body. Learning how to express them is something that is taught right, and I guess you could say coming up maybe in maybe a disharmonious home or a dysfunctional home where children are exposed to adults who are not emotionally mature, right?

So they may be expressing their anger through violence, or maybe they express their sadness. The silent treatment and not communicating, right? So over time, you know that child may grow up to feel that the way that you handle anger is by having an emotional outburst to scream or to fight, right? Or to throw a tantrum.

Or maybe the way that you express sadness is to later just, you just avoid it. You just get like, you hate these feelings. These feelings. I don’t understand them. And I’ve seen mom and dad not understand their feelings, right? So that. I should also learn how to not understand my feelings, right? Mm-hmm. and over time, right?

That that’s kind of where that self-awareness comes in. It’s what am I really feeling and how do I make it so that I can make this an effective place in my life rather than a place where I digress. 

[00:05:39] Elise: So like, and then essentially that’s what you mentioned earlier, like you have a, a glass of wine at the end of the day to calm down our surfaces.

Like we, those are learned behaviors slash societal behaviors that are sort of put on us essentially. 

[00:05:51] Sarah: Exactly, exactly. Okay. So it’s like you see it in TV all the time, like in our media, you know what I mean? And it’s like you. You’re having a hard day, you’re having a rough day, and you see that drink just being poured, right?

And that’s kind of that example of a coping mechanism that we were told to use to, you know, avoid suppress or neglect the way that we’re really feeling because processing those feelings might be harder. Than it is to avoid them. Right. Got it. It requires a little bit more energy to sit down and process and think about your feelings than it would if you just, you know, sat back relaxed and took a drink and just avoided it and waited for the next 


[00:06:28] Elise: to come.

Right. And I wanna, I wanna get into that processing emotions, but I do have one question before we go there. Is emotion, this idea of emotional intelligence, is that a re, cuz we mentioned our parents generation, right? Is it a relatively newer phenomenon? Like, are we a little bit more aware of this now? Is that fair to say?

[00:06:49] Sarah: I would say that we’re a little more aware of it now than we were before. But if we go back in time for a minute, and this is kind of something I’ve been discovering a little more, and I feel like emotional intelligence was something that was even taught in our scripture, right? It was taught in, you know, religion.

It was taught through, you know, ancient times, the Egyptians and how they process emotions. And this was something that was really in our community and our culture for a long time. But I feel like. It has been upgraded 10 times more with the neuroscience that’s available, with the research that’s available, with the therapy that’s becoming more mainstream psychotherapists.

And that inner healing and understanding and evolving your emotions is something that is kind of coming to light in a positive way. And more people are going, oh, I definitely need to work on this part of my life. Yeah. Because maybe, you know, my life doesn’t just revolve around just having a successful career.

There could be many people with a successful career that, you know, go home to an unhappy marriage that go home to, you know, just trauma and tantrums and sadness and anger, and they don’t know how to express that. And then we go, oh no, like my life is no good, or I don’t know how to control my life. And I think that’s the biggest thing there.

That our emotions tend, without regulating them, tend to control the way that we perceive the world, right? And tends to control us and kind of have us in the backseat and our emotions are kind of driving and taking the wheel right. And later realizing that we can actually make a choice to regulate and manage those emotions and understand them for what they.

And turn that into our success, right? So we’re now back in the driver’s seat. We’re the ones taking the control back and we’re the ones owning our emotions and owning our feelings while at the same time processing them and not hurting the people around us. 

[00:08:43] Elise: You’re so well spoken. Obviously people can’t see, but I’m like, not even, Hmm.

How like, so we know that we feel emotions. We know they, they have a big impact on our day to. How do we start working through the processing of that emotion? Right. Um, and is it easier too to maybe take an example to walk us through that or, Yeah. 

[00:09:08] Sarah: Oh yeah, for sure. So I know as a personal story, just myself, like I grew up in a very disharmonious home, right?

Where things were very dysfunctional and that was really hard for me to even begin to process those emotions. And when things got bad, I learned that the way, the best way to communicate that was through the expression of anger, right? It was through the express expression of screaming and fighting and just, you know, Un tolerable feeling that no one could understand.

So we just acted out. We reacted to it instead of responding to it, right? So I started noticing how much of a problem that was becoming, not only for me, but for the people around me, for my circumstances, for my life, you know? Having a stressful environment at home and then going to work with it, how that impacted my life like that, all of those things in terms of just anger itself, uh, really impacted the way that I viewed the world.

And I almost started hating feelings. Like I hated feeling things because I went, oh my God, like. This is such an overwhelming feeling. I don’t know how to deal with it. I don’t know how to process it, and I honestly didn’t know that there was a way that you could process those feelings and learn how, and breaking it down into steps almost to kind of give your mind and body something to wrap itself around.

Right. So how I would describe kind of, without going into like this crazy detail, but giving you like a synopsis of what it is, um, Essentially when you’re in is, let’s say, let’s say I’m angry and How I would kind of go about viewing that is by looking at the two things that are happening to me. So usually there are two things that are happening when you’re in a state of anger, for example.

So you have your mind, which is processing all the thoughts and the stories, and you have your body, which is reacting to all the sensations that are happening in your body, all of the feelings that you’re physically feeling within your body. And because of those feelings, your mind is trying to. Story in order to understand what those feelings mean.

What does all this mean? So now your body and mind are processing two things at the same time, and the brain just doesn’t work like that. So the brain starts to get overwhelmed. It starts to get fatigued. It’s like, oh my God, I’m thinking this, but I’m feeling this and I’m doing that and this is happening, and I’m screaming now, and now I’m punching a wall.

Like things happen very dramatically, right? And very drastically. Mm-hmm. . So the first step is to remember that we need to process both the minds, so the thoughts and the body and those feelings separately from one another. And it starts with processing the body first. 

[00:11:49] Elise: Can I ask a question? So I guess I never Yeah, so emotion, the way, the way you’re just describing this, so emotion is actually more in your body than in your mind.

In your mind. Makes the story around it. Yes, 

[00:12:03] Sarah: exactly. Huh. And the story that’s created for you is based on your past experiences. So maybe something that would get you angry, for example. Maybe it doesn’t get me angry. And why is that? It’s because the story that you have told yourself or the story that has been created and rep like on repetition for you through your life is not the story that I had.

And that’s why maybe I can, you know, approach that situation maybe differently than the way you would or vice versa. So it’s definitely your thoughts that create your feelings. So what you make of it is how your feelings will respond to that thinking pattern. 

[00:12:43] Elise: Okay. So, sorry you’re going through, that’s really interesting to me.

So I’ll probably take a second to digest that. But you were going through the steps, so that’s step, that kinda step one is realizing. That connection. 

[00:12:56] Sarah: Exactly. Yeah. So the step one is understanding and processing what’s happening in the body. So taking a minute to tune out the story. Let’s forget the story.

Let’s throw those thoughts away. Let’s not even build a foundation around what we think this means yet. Let’s focus in on what my body is doing, because if my body is reacting and I’m not at a. Where I’m calm and cool and collected, what’s gonna happen is I’m gonna overthink. I’m gonna under think I’m gonna react because parts of my brain are just not active.

Right? And when you’re, for example, when you’re angry, your thinking brain, that prefrontal cortex is completely shut off because you’re now in survival mode. So you’re ready to fight, flight, or flee, whatever it is that your response is to survival or a threat. Going to be depicted by your survival brain.

So your survival brain, which is the amygdala in the back of your brain, is really inflamed at this point. And because it needs all this energy, it can’t give you the capacity to think with your prefrontal cortex. It says, no, no, no. I need all this energy in case you need to fight in case you need to flight in case you need to.

Whatever it is that you need to do, I need to preserve that energy. So what we wanna do is, for me specifically, if I’m angry, I’ll take a minute to regulate my body. So I’ll go in and I’ll say, sorry, I’ll go into notice what I’m feeling when I’m feeling angry. I feel a heavy chest, right? I feel maybe tingling all over my body.

Maybe I feel really hot, right? Because now your blood pressure is rising. Um, I feel sometimes I feel goosebumps, right? On my. Uh, sometimes I’ll feel a shortness of breath because now you’re no longer breathing with your full capacity with your belly. You’re breathing from your chest, right? And at that point, that’s kind of where you need to tune in and be like, okay, my body is doing something right now.

It’s getting ready for something. And what is it right? . And from there is when you can go into understand your emotions. So there are a few primary emotions, and this is where I like to kind of use something called an emotions wheel. And. I’m sure you’ve heard that line from Shrek. Ogres are like onions, right?

Emotions are like onions, and it’s crazy because we’ll have these primary emotions where we’re feeling angry, sad, fearful, but then you’ll, when you look at that sheet, you’ll notice that there are all these other emotions that are coming up for you as well, right? So you could be feeling. 22, 32, maybe even 10 feelings at the same time.

So your body is really overwhelmed and it gives you a moment to go, whoa, like I need, like I’m processing a lot, right? Mm-hmm. , from that point, you would then go in to regulate those emotions, so give yourself, I usually set a timer and I’ll time myself and give myself 10, 15, maybe 20. To feel what I feel, cry it out, scream into a pillow, punch a pillow, whatever it is that I need to do in that moment to release all of the pent up trauma and tension that’s happening in my body so that I don’t explode it onto someone else.

So that I don’t, you know, um, have a crazy meltdown because I just don’t know what I’m feeling. Right? So this is how you begin that process of becoming aware of what you’re feeling and associating emotions with that so that you can understand I’m. Um, I then go into regulate through a relaxation technique.

So we wanna really shut down that survival brain and we wanna activate that thinking brain. We need that thinking brain to come back so that we can analyze the story from a clearer, calmer lens. So what I’ll do, breathing is probably the best way. Of, you know, going about, um, regulating your emotions, but then you can also do other techniques such as, uh, EFT tapping, tapping techniques.

So tapping on certain meridian points in your body to really stress. Uh, you can also do meditation, something that calms you down and relaxes the body. Um, another technique for me is just breath work. So really breathing and sending oxygen to my brain to deactivate that survival brain and turn on that thinking brain because that is what I need right now.

I’m cut out from thinking at all, like I have no clear judgment whatsoever, and I really want that if I wanna really begin to process and understand my emotions. Once that’s done, you can go into processing those. The thoughts and the story. So now that your mind and body, sorry, now that your body is calm, right?

That those sensations have calmed down. You’re not producing as much adrenaline or cortisol anymore. You’re not in this state of rush anymore. Your mind is now able to think about rationally about the thoughts that it was having. So I, this is where I like to do something called a thought download. And this is where you just pull out a sheet of paper and you just were.

All of the thoughts that are happening to you, what it meant to you, the story, what feelings that were associated with that thought, um, what did I make it mean about myself? Right. Uh, even thoughts about just the situation at hand. What was the story when you were upset and what’s the story now that you’re relaxed?

What are the key differences there? And what I’ll do is I’ll go into. Analyze those thoughts from a third party objective perspective. So I really zoom out and I take a minute to explore and be curious at what I wrote down, and just go in, kind of explore and understand each of those emotions with this lens of compassion, this lens of love and acceptance of these emotions.

Of course you were feeling that way look at what you needed me. Right? Of course, you felt angry or upset. You were feeling disrespected. Right. Of course you had to get angry in that moment because you were dismissed. And going into really understand why it is you felt that way so that we’re no longer shaming those feelings, but accepting that they’re here to teach us something.

And I think that’s the biggest thing here. Our emotions are our greatest teachers, and they’re here to teach us about the world around us by sending signals to us and communicating through us, through our body, and through our mind. 

[00:19:11] Elise: That’s like such a good, I’m just thinking when there’s ever like, conflict that comes up Yeah.

In, in communication and relationships. Like what I’ve tried to do in the last, like few years, I guess is like take a couple days to process it, which I, I don’t think I real all these like wonderful steps that you’re speaking about, like now it makes sense that I, why I can have a clearer thought. After that.

And maybe for some people it takes 10 minutes and maybe for some people it takes a week. And maybe it depends on the situation, but that kind of like taking that second, taking that pause to not react, calming yourself down and then thinking logically through that, um, is such, I would imagine such a valuable skill when it comes to conflict. Right. 

[00:20:01] Sarah: It’s such a valuable skill. Yeah. I mean, When I didn’t know about this and then going to knowing about it, I went, what was I doing? Oh my gosh. Like this is, this is cool. 

[00:20:11] Elise: So I feel a little right now. Yeah. . I like why? Why isn’t everyone like reading Sarah’s book like the books? 

[00:20:21] Sarah: definitely going make a book for sure. on how to process your emotions. Yeah. And it’s crazy how much faster. I have been able to process my emotions and where I was before. Yeah, like I would say a year ago, it took me 3, 4, 5 days to really come down from that. But now that I’m kind of ping back in and I’m investing more time in myself and investing in time in my feelings and my thoughts, and giving myself that unconditional, undivided attention, mm-hmm.

I am now finally giving. That validation that I needed this whole time and not expecting it from anyone else, now it’s completely in my control. I go at my own pace, and now that’s taking a day, maybe less than a day, 30 minutes to an hour to process what I’m feeling. And the next part of that is how do you communicate that, you know, to your partner, to your friend, to your spouse, to your, you know, to a stranger even.


[00:21:21] Elise: And how do, how do you communicate? 

[00:21:23] Sarah: Right. So communication all comes down to those aspects of empathy, those aspects of listening, those aspects of understanding and only communicating what you feel and what you thought rather than communicating what you think the other person made it mean, right?

Or what you think that they. Made your anger mean, right? And going in and advocating for yourself from a place of love and compassion, right? And having that empathy for, you know, taking accountability even for the things that you’ve gone through, or you know, the things that you may have said that you didn’t mean, or to go in and make a meaningful, healthy well apology on behalf of the fact that you took the time to process and really validate what was happening to you.

And I think the best form of communication is you taking that moment, that space, and that time. It’s probably the biggest act of self love to go in and just be there for you and to come back in and really communicate how you felt and what really happened to you in that moment. Um, rather than making, rather than going with the story that you were originally telling yourself when your thinking brain just wasn’t activated.

[00:22:35] Elise: And so the stories that we tell ourselves you mentioned earlier, are very dictated by like this inner child. So how, how do we like, I guess, heal that inner child? Is that what we’re, is that the ultimate goal 

[00:22:51] Sarah: or part of the process? Part of your goal? Yes, exactly. Part of the goal, part of the process. And. . I would say never knowing about my inner child before and now knowing about her and now being there for her.

I would never go back, like I would never abandon that little girl again. But that came with time, right? That came with accepting that, that there was a part of my psyche that just was incomplete. And this is how I can explain inner child healing in like its simplest form. So say you’ve grown up in a disharmonious home or a dysfunctional home.

This child or a child might feel like they need to grow up a little faster than they would have. They needed to mature, they needed to adult, so they were unable to complete their childhood. Right. Okay. Now, as an adult, they’ve grown up, but on a subconscious level, they are now seeking out the completion of their childhood through the relationships that they have.

So for example, with your spouse, with your friends, with your siblings, whatever relationships that exist in your life, you are constantly looking to complete that cycle because your childhood was incomplete. So we do this by hoping that someone might, you know, give. The validation that we need, we’re hoping that someone will love and accept us, right?

We’re hoping that, um, all of those things that we needed as a child are going to happen in this relationship now. And if I don’t get them, then my needs are not being met. Right. So how we begin to transform that is to go in, you know, meet that inner child, acknowledge that they’re there, and understand how you may have been abandoning his or her needs and how you can start to meet them.

So maybe it’s. Things like not speaking up for yourself when you know you’ve been disrespected. Right. A lot of, you know, children have grown up being told you need to respect your elders and you don’t talk back to your parents, or you don’t get upset at your parents. You don’t have needs. You don’t have wants.

Right. And regressing back, sorry. Transforming it back into your adulthood, you know, you’re kind of going, well, why are all my needs? And it’s because I was taught that it just wasn’t important. So how do we go in now to make yourself feel important is by giving you the things that you needed as a child and continuing to complete that cycle all on your own.

Finishing the completion of your childhood is probably one of the most fulfilling things that you could do. Um, and. One of the most heartwarming places to be when you can kind of give yourself that validation when you can go in and no longer people please, when you can stand up for what it is you believe, where you can be comfortable making mistakes.

Right where you can be comfortable with failure or where you can be comfortable being outspoken. Right? And those are the ways that, at least for me, I needed my inner child to be healed was to feel free in my expression, in my message, or to feel free in advocating for myself or to feel free and feeling all the crazy feelings that I was feeling all the time, because I was someone that was really empathic and I felt my feeling so harshly and so deeply.

It was almost, uh, I almost robbed myself in the beginning when I told myself that I hated feelings and that my feelings were no good and that I couldn’t understand them, and that I, it just causes destruction everywhere I go. And now kind of healing that in her child and realizing that she isn’t allowed to have these feelings.

These feelings are important to her. This is how she learns about herself, and this is how she learns about the rest of the world. And why on earth would I ever wanna abandon those needs? Right. So inner child healing is amazing, amazing stuff. 

[00:26:45] Elise: Is that what you do? You do a lot of that as well in your practice?

Like not personally, but help a lot of people kind of go through that process. Got it. Yes. 

[00:26:52] Sarah: Yeah, so I run a bit of a meditation 

[00:26:54] Elise: for it. Okay. Okay. Is journaling a big part 

[00:26:58] Sarah: of that? Journaling is such a huge part of that. Okay. And I know we’re kind of heading into this, you know, realm where journaling is.

Probably a little more seen and noticed than it was before, um, at least on my social media and at least in my realm of friends, right? I’m definitely advocating for journaling, but what I love about journaling is that you can really get to know yourself. Through the way that you communicate back to yourself and the way that our mind and our body communicates to us about how we feel and think is not only through our thoughts, but the way that we write them down, right?

And the way that we see them and kind of looking back at what we wrote is kind of that reflection as to what we were thinking, how we were feeling on the outside perspective. Because we’re feeling all of this internally. We’re thinking all of this internally, but to then write it down and to have a look at.

As like a third party objective person looking in at who you are, it is, it can be the most amazing thing and it can sometimes be the most frighten thing, right? Because I know a lot of people when they start journaling and they get into those really deeper inner child journaling prompts or, uh, those.

Prompts about their, you know, growing up as a child and what their parent life was like and what their home life was like. Uh, they get into this place of, oh my God, I’m so ashamed of it. Right? I’m so ashamed of what I’ve been through. I never even wanna see that again. I never wanna dump those thoughts out again.

Right? And then we go into this place of denial. And we go into this place of shame where we shame and reject what we’ve been through and it closes off that opportunity to learn. It closes off that opportunity to grow and evolves through the pain. Right? And something that, you know, a lot of my clients come back with is, is I love that I was able to go through that and I’m no longer trying to avoid feeling what.

What that really meant for me, because I needed somebody to hold my hand through it, right? I needed somebody to be there with me as I processed those feelings and emotions because I could not do it alone. Right? And now they’re at this place where they’re like, journaling is amazing and I love it.

Something I really love to do is gratitude journaling. That’s kind of how I got into journaling and gratitude journaling is probably the best type of journaling that you could start with if you’re a beginner and it really opens up your. Kind of to what is around you. Abundant in your life, what’s what you can be grateful for.

And it shows you the good that you have in your life each and every day. And from just a scientific perspective, they say that people, that grateful journal have an increase of happiness hormones. So they produce more dopamine, they produce, um, a lot of other chemicals that make them feel happier. And happier.

People tend to think more positively about stressful situations. By at least 10% and that is insane. Just for maybe journaling three prompts a day about something that you’re grateful for, just because you can learn to think critically and think positively and negative situations. 

[00:30:09] Elise: Well, the perfect, um, the perfect item to gift give them this year too, I guess this time of year everyone’s get gratitude journals for everyone.

Yes. That. Honestly, I feel like we just packed so much information into 30 minutes that I would love to, like. Is there, is there anything else, I guess, in your, in your work that you think is valuable to those listening to, to understand and to know? Yeah. I 

[00:30:39] Sarah: think the most valuable thing that you can kind of take out of just increasing your emotional intelligence.

Understanding that your emotions help you to perceive the world around you. It’s there to guide you through the world that this big world that we’re in, and it’s there to protect you. They’re there to send you messages, they’re there to guide you through this crazy world. And there are greatest teachers.

And if we can learn the messages that each of our emotions has for us, then I feel like we’ll be able to work through any difficulty. Any problem or any stress that we have in our life, whether that’s in a relationship, whether that’s financially, whether that’s spiritually, you know, whether that’s in our family life or with our siblings and in different relationships, even coworkers and strangers, right?

If we can learn how to process and validate our own emotions as well as empathize with the emotions of other people, I feel we will be 10 times Happi. Then avoiding and running away and assuming that our emotions are a negative thing, when really they’re probably the greatest thing that has ever happened to human

[00:31:57] Elise: Very cool. Sarah, this is so wonderful. If people wanna hear more about what you have to say or know more about your work, where can they find you? 

[00:32:05] Sarah: So they can find me on Instagram @sarahjoseph_ coach, and I have a lot of content there. They can even, you know, sign up to work with me.

We can book in a 30 minute free consultation if that is, you know, you wanna learn more about how to process your emotions and go through the steps. I provide a five step process on how to work through increasing your emotional intelligence and there’s a lot of other steps in there, which are a great part to learning how to manage, understand, and regulate your emotions.

So I’m definitely there. 

[00:32:37] Elise: Wonderful. Thank you so much for being here with 

[00:32:40] Sarah: us. Thank you so much for having me. And I hope this inspires so many other people to get on their journey of healing and get on their journey of understanding that their emotions are their best friends. 

[00:32:50] Elise: I think it definitely will.

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